Posts with the category “for-standers-by-standers”
Jesus, Heal the Hurt Beneath My Anger
by Deana Bell on March 30th, 2022
BY: Susan Marvin, Board Member, Group Leader When my husband left, I was devastated. I felt hurt and worthless. I know you know that feeling. I never thought of my husband as defining my worth, but that is how I felt at the moment he left the marriage. During the first two years after he left, I often felt outraged. Our CK friend and pastor, Craig Hill, often talks about our anger as the "warning...
The Trap of Unforgiveness
by Deana Bell on November 10th, 2021
BY: Anonymous I have often heard that the sin of unforgiveness is the number one roadblock to restoration and healing. (Please read that again!!!) I was too blinded to see and understand the concept of forgiveness in my early days of standing. I was always warfaring and targeting the non-Covenant. I thought that she was my enemy. I would come against her "binding the Jezebel" spirit, casting out w...
How To Stand Firm for Your Marriage
by Deana Bell on October 30th, 2021
BY: Anonymous To stand firm for your marriage, you will need to know that it is God’s will to restore the marriage. God is on your side when it comes to the marriage covenant between one man and one woman. When you read in the book of Genesis, you can see God is the originator of marriage and family. Adam spoke over the union he had with Eve (Genesis 2:21-24); this gives us the plan of God, an...
Converting Life's Trials into Deeper Faith
by Deana Bell on July 27th, 2021
BY: Anonymous “Open his eyes, Lord, that he may see.”(2 Kings 6:17 NIV) The prophet Elisha prayed those words for his servant as an enemy army surrounded their city. The Lord enabled his servant to see the “hills full of horses and chariots of fire all around Elisha.” (2 Kings 6:17 NIV) Elisha’s servant was suddenly able to see what Elisha already knew: that God was protecting them and was going t...
Marriage: Following God's Model of Christ and the Church
by Deana Bell on July 16th, 2021
BY: Judy Pruitt (Stander, Group Leader) If marriage is supposed to be a picture of Christ and the Church, then how would Jesus walk through a "difficult marriage?"Ephesians 5:31-32 says, "…and the two will become one flesh, this mystery is great, but I am actually speaking with reference to Christ and the Church." Hopefully, we agree that Jesus' character shows that He would lay his life down for...
Speak to the King in Your Husband!
by Deana Bell on June 19th, 2021
BY: Anonymous (Stander, Leader, Intercessor) I was so delighted when I heard evangelist Mike Murdock speak a very wise statement. "A foolish wife speaks to the fool in her husband, and she gets the fool back. But the wise wife speaks to the king in her husband, and she gets the king back." It is easy to see our husbands' faults, and it can become a nasty habit to point them out to him. In Dr. Em...
Does Divorce and Remarriage End My Stand?
by Deana Bell on June 6th, 2021
BY: Anonymous (a Stander and Group Leader) My testimony of coming to saving faith began as a child when I became active in my church as an altar boy. However, I didn’t truly open my heart to Christ as my Savior until my adult life after my wife, and I had a family of 6 beautiful children. When our twin daughters were less than a year and a half old, my wife decided that she wanted to separate. It ...
Fiercely Standing Your Ground
by Deana Bell on May 25th, 2021
BY: Anonymous As a young first-time mother, I couldn’t fathom loving a child more and being more fiercely protective of the precious baby God had given me. I was overwhelmed with the wonder of new life and the awe that the Lord had entrusted my husband and me with the task of raising this boy to love and honor Him. In the way only the Lord can, He expanded the love in my heart to love and protect ...
Surviving the Loneliness While Standing
by Deana Bell on May 14th, 2021
BY: Anonymous One warm summer day, I decided to take my pet’s cage outside to clean with the hose in my front yard. Being a petite young woman, it took a lot of effort to get the 6-foot iron cage out the front door and down the steps into the driveway. Once I had it outside, I gathered my supplies and was ready to get to work.The next thing I remember was waking up under a pile of metal pieces. Wh...
Keeping Supernatural Momentum in Your Stand
by Deana Bell on May 7th, 2021
BY: Tiffany Bull, Stander, Group Leader Like a child anticipating a blessing, each year since I started a new life in Christ Jesus, I have asked my Heavenly Father for a birthday gift. His most recent spiritual gift to me has rocked my world. This gift is very special to me and crucial for my stand for my marriage. As it was drawing near my birthday last summer, I sought the Lord's face and asked,...
Rhema Word - God's Word Spoken to You!
by Deana Bell on April 30th, 2021
BY: Anonymous (a stander and group leader) The night I asked the Lord for a Rhema word to help me stand for marriage restoration, I had no idea what to expect or how the Lord would get that word to me. How would I know it was from God? What would it mean? Was it Biblical? About five months into my stand (alone; hadn't yet heard of Covenant Keepers ministry), a friend told me I should ask God for a...
When God Calls You To Dig Deep....He's Having A Baby With The Other Woman.
by Deana Bell on April 9th, 2021
BY: Anonymous "Blessing the Non-Covenant Child in the Womb; Later Being Blessed by This Child""What? You're having a baby with the other woman?""Oh, my goodness!"But then again, I wasn't completely surprised because my husband had been living with the other woman for some time now.This was the 70's and this kind of behavior was completely unacceptable from a married man living with a young woman m...
Father, Forgive Them, For They Know Not What They Do
by Deana Bell on March 23rd, 2021
BY: "Evangeline," a Stander and Group Leader When my husband made the announcement, "We are getting a divorce," I behaved as a four-year-old, crying, begging, then actually hating him. He told me he was going to be with someone else, someone only a few years younger, since he wouldn't "rob the cradle." He told me to get a lawyer right away because the other woman had already hired one, and so had...
How Long, Lord?
by Deana Bell on March 17th, 2021
FOR STANDERS, BY A STANDER (ANONYMOUS) It was the morning after the first night of last year’s Covenant Keepers Virtual Conference. Sitting with the Lord that morning, I was pondering on the “restoration” of marriages. How we often ask, “When will my marriage be restored?” Or when we hear in a testimony, “On such and such a date, my marriage was restored.” I was asking the Lord about this when He ...
The Impact (of Our Stand on Future Generations)
by Deana Bell on March 5th, 2021
BY: Nancy Cook, Stander, Group Leader My children were young when I began standing for my marriage. My younger son was six, my daughter was ten, and my older son was twelve. I brought them to the Covenant Keepers conferences, which had an active ministry for the youth at the time. So my children grew up understanding the concept of covenant and the importance of family. I didn’t realize how much o...
by Deana Bell on December 31st, 2020
NOTE from the Directors:Friends, I am SO completely excited for what God is going to in and through you as you read the last blog of 2020. It was written by my sweet friend and prayer partner, Rebecca Wells. You may have noticed that we have taken a longer than usual break from blogging since the end of October and here's why.Since the first week in November, I started personally training a new gr...
50 Truths About Offense
by Deana Bell on July 9th, 2020
BY: Duke Rohe, Stander The good thing about a short memory is you forget who you are angry with.If you are slow to take offense, you probably won't become offended.Your offense is measured by your entitlement.To stay off the defensive, receive everything as input. When on the defensive, everything looks offensive.The opposite of love is not hate; it's offense. Offense grows a weight around the nec...
Forgiving in the Midst of Betrayal
by Deana Bell on June 26th, 2020
BY: Alicia Bradford, CK Stander Betrayal and abandonment are astoundingly painful places to be. In my own experience of betrayal and abandonment facing divorce, I felt raw, like something unreal was happening. It was tempting to let self-pity be my companion. But instead, I found that this time of intense pain became a profound time of growing close to Jesus. Jesus knows this pain of abandonment a...
A God of Many Names
by Deana Bell on June 19th, 2020
BY: TIffany Bull, CK Group Leader Stephen and I got married six months after meeting each other. A few days after the wedding, I remember asking my Heavenly Father, "God, why did I marry him?" I heard clearly, "Because You are going to bring him back to Me." Little did I know that the way I would do this with Jesus would be through standing in the gap for Stephen and our covenant marriage with Go...
Giving Tuesday May 5, 2020
by Koji Bell on May 5th, 2020
By Starr Lichty, Covenant Keepers Board Member & Pastor Koji Bell, Covenant Keepers DirectorWith COVID-19, we have been hit with major turbulence in so many ways, including with our finances. It is easy to feel a great concern about everything. Who holds our future? How do we conduct our finances including our giving during this unsettled time?Let’s consider Jesus’ parable about the wise man and t...
Has The Lord Forgotten Me?
by Deana Bell on February 19th, 2020
BY: A Stander in Malaysia In our church’s calendar, my husband's birthday falls on the Feast of the Triumph of the Cross. That has always been a source of consolation to me each year; that the Cross will triumph in my prodigal’s life. This year, when the day came, I asked my daughters to accompany me to church to pray for their father, especially on his birthday. Only my younger daughter was able...
Not In Vain
by Deana Bell on February 4th, 2020
BY: Stander, Healed Marriage, Georgia, USA This morning my husband and I prayed together as it has been a challenging week and the enemy has definitely been attacking. But earlier in the week, I spoke God's word that "No weapon formed against me shall prosper" and I asked the Lord to meet our needs and God (as always) came through and we persevered. This morning in prayer, my husband was praying a...
by Deana Bell on January 1st, 2020
BY: the late Janeen Herig, former SW Regional Director While driving to church one Sunday morning, the sun, hitting the diamonds in my wedding set, caught my eye. It was such a bright, clear sparkle. A sudden, brilliant light flashing before my eyes.As I looked down at my rings for an instant, the Lord spoke to me in my Spirit, letting me know His thoughts…He said, "You are just like that diamond ...
A Christmas Miracle
by Deana Bell on December 25th, 2019
BY: Donna Hearn, CK Canada Board Member, Group Leader In November 2015 a Christmas miracle was in the making. Our daughter, Jodi, and her husband, Mario, were married in Puerto Vallarta, Mexico. Mario has a successful fishing business there, so they chose to live in the nice warm sunshine of Mexico. Puerto Vallarta is also the place where my husband, Duane, and I celebrated our anniversary for 15 ...
Growing in Maturity
by Deana Bell on December 18th, 2019
By: the late Joyce Hasty, CK Intercessor and Prayer Warrior Recently, I drove down one of our major streets to the pharmacy. I saw a spectacular sight. A huge wrecking ball was destroying a 50 year old bridge which spanned two streets and connects the interstate with other cities. The stone crumbled easily against the weight of that mighty ball. I stopped and watched and I heard in my spirit, “Tha...
What's More Real to You?
by Deana Bell on November 13th, 2019
By: (ANONYMOUS)I was in tears. I recollected all the words I wish I hadn’t spoken, and all the words I wish I had. I hated myself for losing my composure, wishing I could hit a reset button and redo that whole conversation. Actually, I wanted to reset years’ worth of mistakes and hurts. I had just gotten off the phone with my husband, who had left our marriage a few weeks prior. We had argued abou...
An Urgent Prayer for Our Marriages...
by Deana Bell on October 30th, 2019
By: Alicia Bradford, CK StanderThank You, Lord Jesus, that through Your pain on the cross, You fully enter into my own pain and bring Your comfort to me in it. Thank You that You know every tear that I shed. Thank You that in coming to You in my pain, and joining You on Your cross, You will strengthen me with Your own blood which courses through my very own veins because You offered Your body fo...
Releasing My Journey of Faith
by Deana Bell on October 23rd, 2019
FROM THE CK STAFF:Our dear friend and intercessor, Lorraine Woodhouse, who turned 90 years old last month, has been on a journey of faith the last couple of years trusting God to help her write a book about walking out covenant in this broken world of ours. The title of her book, Lorriane's Journey of Faith, released May 24, 2018, is truly how she has lived her life for decades. Here is a short ex...
by Jackson Bell on September 23rd, 2019
By: a CK Leader and IntercessorWalking this journey for the last 11 years has been such a beautiful process of the Lord refining me and working out of me whatever does not reflect Him. The first few years were mostly me responding to attacks and insults out of my own flesh. Over time, and with a sincere heart to genuinely follow Him, my responses to attacks and insults the last several years hav...
God Dreams of Restoration
by Jackson Bell on September 18th, 2019
By Alison, Covenant Keeper and Frequent DreamerHow do you interpret the title of this article? Is the word “God” used as a noun, followed by the verb “dreams,” showing an action on the part of God? Or is “God” an adjective of the noun “dreams” implying the source of a dream as coming from God? The answer is that both are correct! And such is the ambiguous nature of dreams.Dreams can often be bizar...
Healed Marriage Testimony
by Jackson Bell on September 4th, 2019
Many years ago, in my youth, I was married and had two sons. Having been raised in a Christian environment, my views on marriage were all about fidelity. For that reason, my first marriage failed. He simply did the unthinkable and in a knee jerk reaction, I divorced. That was my first marriage. He is now deceased.For many years I remained single until I met Gary. We loved furiously and fought just...
by Jackson Bell on September 2nd, 2019
My story is simple......God blessed me with a love for a daughter born out of my husband’s affair.Like every doting mother, I have so many exciting stories to share about my “daughter” - my husband’s child from a secret affair. This child, my daughter-in-love, likes to sing her nursery rhymes and play with her stuffed animals. Bath-time is so much fun with her, when we play with the three little d...
Should I use Tough Love with my Spouse?
by Jackson Bell on August 22nd, 2019
One fairly common truth that experience has proven over and over is that “tough love” usually bears rotten fruit! The model for our behavior should always be Jesus. How does He treat us when we are rebellious, willful, stubborn, uncaring, inconsiderate, uncooperative and unfaithful? He responds by loving us unconditionally, and forgiving every sin. He is faithful to us even when we are unfaithful!...
by Jackson Bell on August 20th, 2019
We begin our journey of faith for the healing of our marriage with fresh vision and determination – we will not faint and give up our stands, no matter how long it takes! However, we are usually so intent and focused upon doing everything we can to see our marriages healed, that without realizing it we make that healing an idol: something we never intended to do.One of the definitions of idolatry...
Reconciliation - The First Goal of Restoration
by Jackson Bell on August 13th, 2019
“I was so angry at God that I did just the opposite of anything that had to do with God.” In his own words, this man was deceived. His wife, who was left behind with their children, was struggling with depression and a spirit of suicide. But God had other plans for this family and He sent help for her as she cried out to Him in her despair. She eventually led a Covenant Keepers group where she was...
Marriage According to God's Plan
by Jackson Bell on August 8th, 2019
(In response to an article from a popular Christian magazine regarding the church’s role in divorce recovery).I have been divorced for five years after a beautiful 43 year marriage. My husband is a spirit-filled, talented Christian musician who was allured and enticed away by the enemy. I agree that this is definitely one of the most painful situations a person can experience. The first six months...
Adultery - How to Handle the Hurt
by Jackson Bell on August 1st, 2019
HANDLING THE HURTI. Deal honestly with your emotions.A. Tell God just what you are feeling.B. Release hurt to God so healing can be released to you. (Matt 11:28-30; 1 Peter 5:7; Psa 55:22)C. Encourage yourself in the Lord. (Psa 119:49-50 & Psa 119:107 (NKJV); Rom 15:4 (New Eng))II. Avoid Satan’s trap of judgment. (John 20:23 (NKJV))A. Only God has the right to judge others. (Deuteronomy 32:35-36; ...
Complete the Circuit - Stay Connected to the Source
by Jackson Bell on July 30th, 2019
Can that which is broken be fixed? Can that which is lacking become whole once again? When an angry word has been spoken, can it ever be taken back or is it forever imparted with the rage with which it was created?The power of forgiveness lies not in the act itself but in the healing that follows. Forgiveness is a choice. This choice is an act of your will. This action is like the switch that begi...
Habits That Can Sabotage Marriage Restoration
by Jackson Bell on July 25th, 2019
I just read a poster on Facebook that listed six habits that sabotage our life. I could go down that list and place a check-mark beside each one of them. There are habits that need to be dealt with in a Godly manner. This is the list that was presented: Worrying about things you can’t change. God is a safe place to hide, ready to help when we need him. We stand fearless at the cliff-edge of doom, ...
Now What Lord? - Part 2
by Jackson Bell on July 10th, 2019
When I came home from the doctor visit where my pregnancy was confirmed, my husband did not share my joy. The devil had stolen his joy. I couldn’t believe it! I also started noticing that my husband was paying special attention to our very young and single secretary. We hired her right out of high school and encouraged her to go to church with us. We wanted her to join the youth group but she said...
Understanding God's Love
December 11th, 2022
Survive Versus Thrive In Your Marriage
April 28th, 2022
Announcing Restoration Power for Marriages: The 2022 Covenant Keepers Spring Conference
April 24th, 2022
Jesus, Heal the Hurt Beneath My Anger
March 30th, 2022
What The Birth of Jesus Means For Marriage
December 24th, 2021
Radiant JoyCovenant Keeping 101Covenant Keeping 201Now What Lord? - Part 1Now What Lord? - Part 2Spirit of AbortionHope - Part 1Hope - Part 2The Door: Shut and LockedEnormous Marriage Restoration Needs Great Spiritual GrowthHold on to Your Covenant PromisesHabits That Can Sabotage Marriage RestorationTaking OffenseSix Stages of ReconciliationComplete the Circuit - Stay Connected to the Source